When you were in High School did you know what you wanted to be when you grew up? Are you one of those people that still don’t? Did you just flounder and fall into a job? Most people did. Most people don’t have enough drive or determination or forethought to have decided what they want to be at age 17 or 18.
That brings me to todays discussion.
For the Love of God people. PLEASE,PLEASE,PLEASE stop asking graduates what they plan to DO with the rest of their lives.
Let me tell you why.
You remember being in high school and the expectations that every one had at the end. Your whole life is in front of you and the end of high school was THE time to decide what you were doing with it. It was stressful right? Sometimes too much. I have seen more than one person breakdown because of the stress.
I need to suggest that we find another way to ask what is next. Maybe just that. What’s next? Or just not ask.
Why change? We have asking the same age old questions of kids since it was common place to do so.
Here’s why. Not everyone can or will be planning the rest of their lives. You may know what I’m talking about.
We’ve spent the last four years fighting FOR Chewy’s life. At one point he almost didn’t make it. So, asking him what he’s going to DO with it is moot. Right now we celebrate the now. We can’t say what the future will bring.
Due to his being chronically ill, making future plans is extremely difficult. We have already had a year of college. The first semester was fine but on the heels of a re-up on his meds. The second we struggled with. If it wasn’t for an understanding professor with a lenient absence policy, we would not have made it through the second. So more schooling will be tough. But we have put up so much of a fight already, it won’t matter. It’s what we do.
A job on the other hand is more of a struggle. Hard to get the future employer to understand that your Chronically ill and capable.
We walk a fine line everyday. We take it one day at a time. So please, the next time that you are talking to a person that is graduating, consider not what they are going to do. But what they have done. What they have gone through.
Be like we are. Just celebrate the now. Welcome them the their future. Be it one of more education, or straight into a job.
We will only celebrate the now and see what the future brings. We have been through some bad and are still ready to fight. But we will fight. In the meantime, we celebrate today. We celebrate everyday.
Please, consider next time that you are talking to a recent or upcoming Graduate, to wish them just a happy celebration of the day.
We do not know what our future holds, but we are happy to celebrate it and life with you!